For sometime, I had trouble understanding a commandment of God, to honour our father and mother. I wondered how to understand this commandment in the face of abusive parents or parents that caused harm in some way. I pondered this for some time and prayed for understanding because to ponder how things would apply in life, in consideration of as many types of circumstances as possible, is important to me. I pondered because I wanted to be able to explain this to a person who had harmful parents. How would a missionary of God be able to address such questions?
I honestly believed that to honour harmful parents was to accept, condone, support or agree with any evil parents are known to do. How could a person, who carries hurt and pain, be able to understand the commandment of honouring their father and mother while addressing the anger in their hearts at the same time?
I know when in emotional or psychological pain, it is hard to comprehend God’s commandment, which in truth, is a very simple principle, because hurt has the tendency to corrupt a person’s ability to perceive this truth. In my own life, I had hard times talking to people who have hurt me without wanting to lash out with my tongue and a hard time understanding God’s commandment to bless our enemies. I understand from my own experiences how hard it will be for a person whose parents caused hurt, especially because a parent is suppose to be loving and supportive, not harmful.
It took time, it took many experiences and personal changes for God to finally enlightened me. When he did provide his inspiration, I knew it was from him and I felt peace, sureness and a confirmation of how to honour the father and mother without ever accepting the evils apparently done.










